Do you live for the weekends, because you no longer have to work or do you live for the weekends because you can finally get to work? I am talking about your other job--the nights and weekend job. If you don't like your day job, then that is a good thing as it means that you are like most people in the world. If you are actively pursuing something else outside of the weekly 40, then that is fantastic and you are now unlike most people in the world.
It is easy to not like something, but it takes concentrated effort to do something about it. If you are one of the few attempting change, I applaud you. Likewise, I have some advice for you as well.
Don't quit your day job
You think that your day job is causing you a lot of stress now, but compare that to not having a job at all. Being able to pay the bills is a wonderful stress reliever. That being said, you may not be fulfilled, but you have the means to dedicate to what make you tick--which includes building your business.
Make it your goal to supplement your day job's income with your entrepreneurial endeavor. Little by little you will see that your nights and weekends will have paid off as your venture eventually matches and then exceeds your day job's income. It's at this moment in time that you can cut ties with the old job and enjoy your passion full time.
If you do decide to quit the day-time gig before your business is fully off the ground, make sure that you can commit to objectivity in your decision making. You will have plenty of reasons and opportunities to compromise the brand or mission of your business, as you fall on hard times and are tempted to cut corners. Do not put yourself in a position that will jeopardize the long-term of your company for a short-term gain.
Why it's important to not give up.
Make a plan
You may be surprised to see this, but too many people do not make a concrete plan for their future. I am talking well beyond annual goal setting. You should know what next week will look like, as well as have a firm understanding of where you will be 20 years out. Here are some time frames that you should consider placing goals/benchmarks around:
Begin with the goal furthest out and work backwards making sure that each subsequent goal supports becomes a means to an end. The further out the goal the more general it will be (many things will change along the way). For example, in 20 years my business will have annual gross sales above $10 million and I will operate in three countries. In one year I will be selling product in retailers A, B, and C, I will add two employees in sales and I will contract with an online marketing firm to upgrade my website and create a social strategy for product Y.
Of course you will need to tweak these goals and milestones along the way to assure that you are on track. This brings us to the next point.
This should be done frequently. I have weekly checkpoints reviewing all of my goals (1-20 years). Do what works for you, but monthly should probably be the minimum time between checkpoints. This is where you plan out the little tasks that have to get done in order to make real progress towards your annual goal, which leads into your 5-year, and so on. This step is vital as it holds you accountable. Don't worry if you mess up. Taking inventory frequently like this helps you keep on track even if last week or month was sloppy. Here are some basic points to cover in your checkpoints:
Reading is the best way for you to learn from others. You probably have a pile of questions as you venture out on your own; taxes, management, marketing, and the list could go on and on. Most successful people are voracious readers. They consume information, because they love learning and have questions that need to be answered.
Quick check: how many books did you read last year? A manageable goal would be 12 books annually averaging one per month. Depending on the size of books that could be only 10 pages per day. If you find reading a physical book too time consuming, you should look into audiobooks. This is easily accomplished if you commute to your day job. The point is, one year from now you could have internalized some inspiring self-helps and business how-tos or you could have watched TV and listened to sports radio.
If you want to break away from the day job then you have to take the necessary steps.